Always appreciate favours no matter what
Do you believe that you need to always show gratitude to someone who must have granted you a favour no matter how big/small or how long ago such favours were granted you? A lot of people today lack the virtue of gratitude. Many even take offence when they are reminded of favours granted them which […]
Always appreciate favours no matter what
Do you believe that you need to always show gratitude to someone who must have granted you a favour no matter how big/small or how long ago such favours were granted you? A lot of people today lack the virtue of gratitude. Many even take offence when they are reminded of favours granted them which they are yet to recompense.
There is the need to always be grateful to benefactors as sooner or later you will be reminded and in a distasteful way. Never forget a favour.
Amina Abdulrazak, 40-year-old lawyer, says, “I don’t expect it to be held over their heads at all. But if an ingrate decides that he or she will insult a person who has done them a favour and actually consciously diminishes that favour by choosing to forget about it, then they should be reminded and cut to size for the sake of engendering a feeling of gratitude and discouraging ungrateful attitudes. They should be reminded of where they are coming from.”
Akeem Hassan, 43-year-old businessman, “It’s very easy for people to forget favours done to them. To be honest, people always forget those who helped them in the past and instead of appreciating the good deeds, they’d rather repay the person with bad. I will tell a story briefly; I helped someone with capital to start his business when things were going well for me but today, I can’t even step feet in his house because he always tells the security guards to tell me he’s isn’t around. He hardly picks my calls and eventually barred my line. Till date, I still wonder where I went wrong after fifteen years.”
Chukwu Obinna, 42-year-old engineer, believes and asks if favours are supposed to be repaid? “Pardon my naivety but if I may ask: are favours supposed to be repaid? Favors are not meant to be repaid. Doing one a favour is a service to God and mankind, not to be counted or to be held over the beneficiary. In essence, am I to remain indebted to the person who maybe out of sheer luck granted a favour and I was successful? If someone is doing me a favour and constantly reminds me of it, then they have lost the blessings that came with the favours they granted me.”
His friend Mohammed Isiaka, 40-year-old security analyst, argues that “No one says you should be indebted to them forever but we should learn to appreciate those who went out of their way to favour us. Some people are just downright ungrateful and they knowingly refuse to acknowledge people who have done them huge favours. They don’t even stop at being ungrateful, but go on to discredit and drag their name in the mud, making sure that they see the downfall of their benefactors. What they gain by doing that, I don’t know.”
Mary Davies, 39-year-old public administrator, “But I want to ask, to what intent is the constant reminder of favours really? What does remembering or not remembering add to the favour giver? It’s just like doing something for someone and expecting thanks on a regular basis. Don’t get me wrong; to be appreciated is good but it’s not to be held forever over any one’s head. Expecting them to be eternally grateful to the giver really smacks of subjugation.”
Hamidat Yakubu, 40-year-old caterer, says “Favours are meant to be cherished and appreciated and therefore never to be forgotten by the beneficiary. It’s part of upbringing – you train kids to learn how to be grateful. It is a very important attitude to imbibe so that they will never take for granted any help that comes their way. They will learn to appreciate any favour done to them. Showing gratitude is part of the good manners we must inculcate into our children.