Are there really wrong choices in life?
One of the hardest things we do in life is making choices and decisions and being comfortable and not finding regrets in them later in life. Choices are very important in our lives as they are the hinges upon which the paths of our lives turn. On many occasions when we make choices, our decisions […]
One of the hardest things we do in life is making choices and decisions and being comfortable and not finding regrets in them later in life. Choices are very important in our lives as they are the hinges upon which the paths of our lives turn. On many occasions when we make choices, our decisions set our lives on a completely different course than if we had decided to go with the other options available to us then.
Choices can be challenging and demanding as most times we feel we need to take the right steps and do not just sit and let other people tell us what to do in our lives. Choices can be complex and we must rely on our knowledge, abilities and willingness to make them work positively for us. There is no doubt that some choices we may decide to make might not work out right despite all the efforts we might have put in for them to work perfectly for us.
There are instances when we rush into taking a decision or making a choice that would end up affecting us one way or the other. Some people make poor choices because they do not have the right information about that situation to make them make the right choice or decision. Sometimes, this is so because even if they have all the right information, they cannot understand or interpret it, thereby making the wrong choices as at the time of a positive decision.
On other occasions, most people would rather go with their instincts rather than trying to make a positive The reality of choices is that they often do not appear to be bad choices at the time. Once the choice is made, the circumstances of the situation can sometimes make the result less than favourable. Of course, sometimes, we could have anticipated this, but instead, we chose to make the choice anyway.
Choices can be complex and we must rely on our knowledge, abilities, and willingness to do research. Some decisions turn out poorly despite all of our efforts. The best we can do as humans is to try and minimise our bad decisions by careful analysis and study rather than always relying on our instinct.
Choices made with true wisdom are those least likely to be considered “bad” later on. The trouble is that there is no real test for wisdom or choice. Any decision to make a choice is rooted in three domains – emotion, knowledge and wisdom. Each plays an important part in making a choice, and in certain situations, each can take the dominant role. As is often the case, it is rare for any three voices to be in agreement, so for any choice that is made, there will always be the “should have, could have, would have” lurking in the back of our minds.
Life being what it is, almost every choice has a down side to it, so there is always something to regret. A person who dwells on how choices might have been made differently will not find much but frustration. There are bound to be certain challenges or difficulties we face in everything we do in life, so do our choices come with different luck or challenges. Most decisions have an upside, so the optimist will recognise that something good comes out of each choice and accepts that negatives come as well. Rather than seeking to change the past, the positive approach is to learn from the experience and apply it towards future choices.
Bad choices are not as common as most people might think. Choices are often made on the basis of what seems best at the time. Only later when the results fail to meet our desired expectations do we look back and say, “I think I made a bad choice.” There is a saying that goes thus, “You can’t follow your heart. You have to lead it.” This line provides the primary distinction between making a wrong and right choice. If you are following your heart, as society teaches us, you are more likely to make a wrong choice. But if you choose instead to lead your heart, to reject the initial instinct and try to think correctly about the situation, you are much more likely to make the right choice.
We cannot all know what the future holds for us as there are no guarantees in life. As long as we are constantly faced with making choices everyday in our lives, we should at least be glad that we had options and we made a choice. Yes, we might have made some wrong choices, but along with those choices came challenges and opportunities that we would not have experienced. Whatever choices we make will ultimately reveal to us the real situation of life.
In the end, people must make the best choices that they are able that they’ll afterwards deal with whatever consequences may come. The important thing is that “bad” choices are recognised and not repeated in the future. There’s a famous quote: “Those that refuse to learn from the past are doomed to repeat it” …and deserve to be kicked in the head!