Are you a snooping freak?

    Women are naturally curious and when they become wives, their curiosity naturally doubles or in some cases triples. At times, people tend to forget that invasion of someone’s privacy can often lead to a disastrous. Snooping most times is irresistible at first, but soon after the curiousity is over, in the long run […]

 

 

Women are naturally curious and when they become wives, their curiosity naturally doubles or in some cases triples. At times, people tend to forget that invasion of someone’s privacy can often lead to a disastrous.

Snooping most times is irresistible at first, but soon after the curiousity is over, in the long run it signifies the beginning of an end.
Women are mostly the guilty party of snooping. According to Marc Kay, “when it comes to unearthing private information, not even the latest macho of James Bond can compete with the skills of an average female involved in it.” The question is why do women snoop more than men? One may be wrong, men even snoop more than women. Men may not be as curious as women, it doesn’t mean a husband or men in general do not snoop.

Normally the nosy behaviour among women is almost a daily indulgence, from getting the latest gist about everything someone buys to wanting to know all that happens in everyone’s relationship. Incidentally, there is a positive side to it, but then where does honest nosiness end and underhand one begins? Snooping becomes serious for some women when they start seeing changes in their husbands or friends act that sort of put them on the disadvantage. If they are unable to get what they are looking for or when they get at something, the urge for full blown snooping sets in. The search chain will take them to g phone calls and text messages, going through wardrobes and pockets. If this tactic fails to produce convincing evidence, they go on to involve friends to make snoop more complex. It could be on their husbands or partners to find out the truth no matter how unpalatable the truth might turn out to be.

Women can be notoriously neurotic when it comes to being suspicious. As if possessed, they go all out to find out for themselves if their partners are not cheating on them.

Women feel justified in their snooping. Mrs. Helen Allen says “I will not deny the fact that we women are all guilty of these negative traits. At a time I was suspicious of my husband. I waited for the slightest time to be left alone with his phone and scrolled through it to see if I could get hold of any number I did not recognise. Of course I found out that he was having a relationship, but in the long run, it only worsened the situation because I found that I could never bring myself to trust him again. I regretted ever going that far in trying to find the truth. It would have been better if I did not know anything at all, maybe that way there would have still been peace in the home.”

The reason that women snoop are more complex. From curiosity to deep insecurity, some see it as an exercise in self preservation. Relationships do damage in some cases as illustrated above Mrs. Allen.

Some women snoop just to put their minds at rest. Even when there is nothing to snoop about, women always have this annoying problem of snooping. In some cases snooping cannot be avoided. According to Mr. Paul Godwin, “being curious is something we all have in all of us as we always have the urge to get information about things that are going on around us especially if it has to do with our spouses but it crosses the line from being curious to being snoopy when it crosses someone’s privacy boundary. There is the need to ask questions if you feel something fishy is going on, but then you have to be careful what you get at the end as it can make or mar a relationship.”

Snooping is basically disrespect for the other people’s space or privacy and only makes people to be less trustful of you and most people are foolish enough to confront the people they have being snooping. Snooping is inborn in all of us but we can exercise self control not to look through as the damage done to a relationship by being snoopy is not worth whatever we discover anyway.  Mevin Moore, in his book, says “snooping is a slippery slope and there is a fine line between whether or not you should do it,” so what side of the line are you on?