Coping with difficult neighbours

Some live so peacefully with their neighbours that they become like blood relations and maintain the relationship even years after they might have moved away.In a rural setting such neighbours could even raise each others’ children because of the closeness of their children.In one such case, a girl was raised by her  neighbours, and when […]

Some live so peacefully with their neighbours that they become like blood relations and maintain the relationship even years after they might have moved away.
In a rural setting such neighbours could even raise each others’ children because of the closeness of their children.
In one such case, a girl was raised by her  neighbours, and when she was getting married the neighbours acted as her parents and organised everything for her.
However, there are other neighbours that can best be described as neighbours from hell because of their behaviour. They behave battle-ready all the time. They fight over gutters and so on.
If you live with them in an apartment, they fight over parking space, refuse bin and even paying collective fees like paying for water and security men.
One man had a neighbour who used to keep his generator under his window and  whenever he complains, they would quarrel but the bad neighbor  would not take it away. Sometimes he would sit at the man’s window and listen to music loudly in the night.
The man had to move to another house because of the disturbance.
Some neighbours  go to the extent of comparing husbands, and what they buy as food, clothes and so on.
It is little wonder that some husbands , especially newlyweds prevent their wives from going to the neighbours unless the neigbours are sick or put to birth.
And many women resent the restriction, but some become glad when they see how those people that always go to neighbours’ houses fight because of gossip that has come out in the open.
In one such case, two women got into physical fight and people gathered to watch them. The husband of one of them almost sent her away, saying he didn’t know that when he went to work she went out to the neighbours.
And in other cases, the neighbours neither quarell nor gossip, but they nonetheless make themselves a nuisance by always going to their neighbour’s house.
They make life difficult for the neighbours they visit, as they must eat food and everything eaten in the house since  they spend several hours  there; some from early morning till early evening.
Some people are in the habit of always asking for food items from their neighbours instead of asking their husbands to buy the finished items. Some even ask for stew or food for their husbands on the pretext that they just came back home, or that the husband was not around and they didn’t know he was coming back that day so they didn’t keep food for him.
Still some would say they have visitors, that if you have food you should please give them.
It is therefore important to note that even though you should live peacefully with your neighbours, you should not allow them to control your life.  
Sometimes being too close can have a negative impact. Some share food, clothes, and go everywhere together to the extent that they  begin to feel bound  or crowded.
Before you become happy with that friendly neighbour, think twice lest she becomes a pain in the neck, or more precisely a neighbour from hell bent on making life miserable for you.