Don’t plant seed of discord in a marriage
Spouses constantly need to be reminded of marital vows which include that what God has joined together, no man should put asunder. However, on several occasions other people have succeeded in putting asunder a lot of couples. These days, many have taken the fate of most marriages in their hands. It is no longer news […]
Spouses constantly need to be reminded of marital vows which include that what God has joined together, no man should put asunder.
However, on several occasions other people have succeeded in putting asunder a lot of couples. These days, many have taken the fate of most marriages in their hands. It is no longer news that some people report everything they notice about a person’s conduct to their spouse. What happened to the idea of taking the issue up with the person involved directly?
Many would rather slither around the spouses of the victim and then finally report them, thereby planting the seed of discord and brewing trouble in the marriage. For me, that is pure wickedness. What would one gain by separating a happy couple, especially one that live in peace?
Jamila Ismail, 41-year-old real estate investor, says “My husband and I have a very healthy relationship and he tells me all that my so called friends say behind my back stylishly to him. Interestingly, they don’t know that he ends up seeing them as enemies to our happiness and cuts off from them instantly. But on the other hand, I am always glad when such happens as most times it’s those who you take as your best friends that end up snitching on you out of pure jealousy or selfishness. When they do such, I see it as freedom from enemies disguised as friends.”
Funke Daniel, 43-year-old accountant, narrates “I speak from experience. At a point, I just could not understand why my husband felt resentment towards me and always questioned everything I did. Friends in most situations become enemies especially when they see that you are progressing; something they never expected in your life. My friends tried to bring my marriage to a halt but I am glad my husband saw the light before it was too late. One of them tried to seduce him and it dawned on him that all they had said about me were lies. It is said that every disappointment is a blessing and I agree, I was disappointed in my so called friend but it was a blessing in disguise as my marriage became even more fun after the whole episode.”
Chidinma Obiora, 38-year-old nurse, advices, “In marriage one needs to be wise because if you aren’t, then it is certain that you’d end up being at the losing end. Most times, people come to you (as a wife) to tell you all sorts of things that they may have seen your husband engaged in in some place. When some of my friends took it upon themselves to become private investigators on my behalf and afterwards taunt me with unsolicited findings, it became apparent that I had to be wise and save my marriage. I am at peace, happy and in control of my decisions without outside interference and pressure from friends and, funny enough, sometimes family.”
Festus Ojiakor, 40-year-old entrepreneur, explains that “Women are mostly victims when it comes to people sowing seeds of discord in marriages. When I was getting uncomfortable with my wife questioning my every move and coming up with names of my exes, then I knew something was fishy. On one or two occasions, I had business meetings with female clients and one or two of her friends saw me. I then put two and two together and figured out that her friends must have been feeding her with more than what they saw, even though I always introduced them to the clients. I had to save my marriage by telling her everything beforehand and even after. That was how I was able to bring peace back to my home. Without saying a word to her friends, my wife fought my war for me and cut them off completely.”