Everything in life is an eventuality
Many women are always hurt by their husbands some to the point of even wanting to quit marriage. The reasons could range from trivial to live threatening issues. Some of the reasons have caused wives to regret their marriages. The thought of regretting the marriage props up every now and then when wives find themselves […]
Many women are always hurt by their husbands some to the point of even wanting to quit marriage. The reasons could range from trivial to live threatening issues. Some of the reasons have caused wives to regret their marriages. The thought of regretting the marriage props up every now and then when wives find themselves in a very difficult situation and wished it could be the other way round, but we have to come to terms that things do happen in our lives that we totally do not have any control over.
It is normal for any human being to become bored especially issues or things that one has become too familiar with for a long time. In the case of marriage that is a life time thing, boredom cannot be ruled out once in a while, however the thought of walking out or regretting the marriage especially if children are involved is a matter that is quite different from one couple to the other.
Regret also is bound to its way into our lives. However, it can become either burdens that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future or motivation to move forward. If you find yourself being overwhelmed by regrets, then you should have a second thought on how to work your marriage back to its starting point – the blissful things that compelled you into marriage.
Marriage itself is a command from God, it behoves then that those going into the social contract should be ready to meet the demand of marriage. So we must be prepared to face whatever comes our way in them.
The main reason people tend to easily regret is because they spend their whole time fantasying about a Cinderella living happily ever after marriage without dealing with the real essence of being married. There are things no one tells you about marriage, you only learn them as you grow in the marriage. All marriages cannot afford to be the same. Every marriage is unique in every aspect. For the fact that a particular marriage is what it is does not mean another marriage should be the same.
But on the other hand getting married for the wrong reasons that you end up not getting in the marriage can have you in the end regretting the marriage.
According to Joanne Spiff a relationship expert in the US, “you should not regret anything that made you happy, things happen because they are designed to happen and teach you something. Every step you take positive or negative, you will find hurdles in your way which are discouraging. But with each passing hurdle and disappointment in your marriage, you are carved into a different person.”
Everything in life happens for a reason any way you want to look at it be it fate, destiny, luck or whatever. The bottom line remains that things are what they are and all we need is to learn to accept the constant changes in our lives, which might result from our seemingly small and insignificant actions and decisions.
Regret, be it from our actions or in actions, things we wish in the past but were not coming out that way. You have this moment; use your regrets to move on, take each moment of your life and be present, live today to be fully alive and connect to what matters to you every day.
Life is too short to dwell over regrets and unrealistic future possibilities that you would have rather done way back. Married to the wrong guy, studying the wrong course or doing the wrong job, whatever it is you have realised that if given a second chance you would have done it in a better way, learn from it and make your life better, get on with your life there is more to life than regretting your past and being obsessed on things that you cannot possibly change. Moving on can help make you into something and someone who others including yourself can respect despite the hand of fate or destiny that might have taken a different toll on your life.
Whether we live with or without regrets depends on the perspective we have on our lives, as a whole. If our lives have turned out fair, we might not be as quick to drag out the feelings of regret but as humans we are always quick to jump into conclusion and illusions when things go a little rough and tough, but remember that after sorrow comes happiness. Whatever difficulty you are facing in your marriage, it is just a trying period and things will definitely be better at the end and you will only sit and laugh when you sit and recall the situation.