Giving your marriage a second chance

Getting married is something every one hopes and dreams about. Well, if not everyone, it is most people’s heart desire, especially women. Marriage for many is like finally achieving the most important thing in life. Marriage for many is sweet and sour. So, during a group conversation on the social media, someone asked the question […]

Getting married is something every one hopes and dreams about. Well, if not everyone, it is most people’s heart desire, especially women. Marriage for many is like finally achieving the most important thing in life. Marriage for many is sweet and sour. So, during a group conversation on the social media, someone asked the question “Would you give marriage a second chance and do it all over again?”

There was no immediate response until someone decided to break the hush and say ‘Never will I give it a second chance, I am done with all the razzmatazz of this thing called marriage. I wish I had never gotten myself into this mess but guess what, it’s too late as I can’t imagine leaving my children in the hands of their so called dad. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Trust me, I am a living experience.”

Her comment drew more comments and some other people shared their thoughts. Their identity will be protected in this article.

Someone who just wants to be known as Biola commented: “I still believe marriage is beautiful although mine failed and am currently separated and contemplating divorce. Even after going through emotional abuse, psychological trauma and being cheated on, I still believe that with the right person marriage can work. I wouldn’t marry my husband again even if he was the only man in the whole universe.”

Another commented, “To be really honest, I would have waited a bit longer before getting married because my husband and I had individual goals, dreams and aspirations we wanted to attain before getting married. Right now, I can’t achieve most of the goals I personally set because of my marital responsibilities which comes first now. But all the same, I cherish my marriage just that sometimes I feel I should have waited a bit.”

There were a lot of other comments relating to the question. But in all, every relationship has its ups and downs, it is the ability of partners to resolve issues between themselves and move on to greater things in the marriage that is celebrated.

That people have problems in their marriages doesn’t mean they are not in good marriages. No marriage is perfect. Rather, spouses are striving towards perfection hence, seeking solutions to the problems they encounter. Truth is, some people have it worse than others. Marriage is a journey of good and rough times even with the best of partners.

Every marriage has its challenges, sometimes, you just have to cover up your secret and pretend that everything is okay. Marriage is for better and worse, even in the worse, marriage is still sweet. The most important thing in marriage is understanding. I guess the reason why some people are complaining about their marriage is that they ended up with wrong partners and the reason is lack of patience.

 Marriage is a good thing. For those that are yet to marry, have it in your mind that there is no perfect marriage anywhere. Marriage is full of ups and downs it takes the grace of God to move on. No one is perfect, we are not perfect, so can’t expect everyone to be perfect. Marriage is all about tolerance.

Marriage is sometimes sweet and bitter and some of those bitter times can have us making some of our worst mistakes. Whatever the situation, understand each other, partner and make it work. Give it a great thought.