Here are eleven qualities of a good husband

Although a few women did respond that way, I was surprised to note that more men than women wrote to ask for the following piece. My learned younger brother, Barrister Danlami Wushishi, led the men with the first request. It is great to know they can’t wait to see how they can serve us better. […]

Although a few women did respond that way, I was surprised to note that more men than women wrote to ask for the following piece. My learned younger brother, Barrister Danlami Wushishi, led the men with the first request. It is great to know they can’t wait to see how they can serve us better. Again, this piece is an edited version from www.hubpages.com. Enjoy it.
1) Be Pleasant: Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. It is often said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheerful and lighthearted as you can be even if you had a bad day at the office.
2) Respect the Vows: Faithfulness or Loyalty is one of the prime qualities a wife wants in her man. Have a sense of honour and duty. The honorable thing is to fulfill your duty to your wife which you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Even in this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually take priority for her. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about now and their needs must always come before your own.
3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive: Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs him. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to compliment her. Be available for her when she needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know that you care for her. When you are not near her at least make a phone call. Be a friend to her. When you don’t agree with her views, respectfully let her know that you don’t agree, with reasons.
4) Adaptability and Sensitivity: As years pass on you’ll see that glowing woman you fell in love with does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressures at home like needs of children, financial obligations etc. Allow her time to relax by taking some work off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife. Do not let your feelings toward life’s changes affect feelings toward your wife.
5) Show Respect: If you expect respect from others you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle, strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back words once they have been spoken. Treat her with respect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Consider her opinion when making important decisions about the family. If you are bringing your buddies home let her know in advance.
6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage: Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise their previous wives, girlfriends or mother in front of their wives. Avoid judging every action or opinion your wife has and understand that she is different from you. Comparing her or making her feel that she does not measure up only would ruin your marriage.
7) Communication: Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what builds trust in your relationship with your woman. She may even forgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what is going on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your wife then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when she talks. A woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. This would encourage her to open up with you and not keep secrets. Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor.
8) Love and Affection: Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker for affection. If you only give her that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it’s insincere. A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new hairstyle or dresses up in something nice for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Gift your Partner something fancy when she least expects it. Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, or taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. Never forget the special days in her life. Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much you love her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together.
9) Offer Protection: A woman needs to feel safe and secure with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don’t need to be a muscle man but at least when you are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man and treat her like a lady.
10) Give her Space: As a Husband you need to understand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and relatives who too are part of her life. Don’t stop her if she wants to go and hang out with them.
11) Keep her happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Good Sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Good sex plays a vital role when it comes to a satisfying relationship. Never grumble about having to support children.  Do not bring porn into the relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level.
If you are an ideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a forever blessing.