How women ‘trick’ men to get what they want

A child when he knows he wants to get something from his parents will put up his behavior and do as he is told. He is even willing to go the extra mile and do additional chores that he ordinarily would grumble about being sent to do. Women they say do not behave any differently […]

A child when he knows he wants to get something from his parents will put up his behavior and do as he is told. He is even willing to go the extra mile and do additional chores that he ordinarily would grumble about being sent to do.

Women they say do not behave any differently from this when it comes to getting something their men and even sons.

Mr. Abel Agie now knows his wife’s tricks to getting him to do things for her. “When my wife starts calling me darling, honey, sweetheart and all those sweet names it is one of two things. She has done something wrong and wants to tell me about or she wants something from me. I used to fall prey for these fancy words until I started paying attention to the times when she gets in this mood and what she is like after I have satisfied her. It was then I discovered her trick. But  being the woman she is, once she found out I had discovered it she created other means I would not want to let out through which she can get me to give her what she wants and if she tries hard enough, she get also gets it when she wants.                

Confirming what her husband said, Mrs. Nkiruka Agie said, “You have to device the means to get what you want from these men otherwise you will sit there day in day out and what should come to you will go somewhere else. It doesn’t cost anything to be nice to them and call them sweet names or do any ‘special favours’ for the period you are waiting for your request to be granted.” With a mischievous smile she said, “You can return to normal when you have got what you want.”

Mal. Hassan Halilu said, “Since our children became teenagers my wife stopped cooking except on occasions when we have serious guests. One regular day, she went into the kitchen to cook hardly calling for any help. When she finished she came straight to me with food in new dishes on a new tray with drinking glasses to match. When I saw it, I teased her saying is this an opportunity you are giving me to launch your new dinner ware? All she did was smile and made a sound as if to say, just enjoy yourself and hear what the cost of this service is. I ate and licked my fingers and smacked my lips. I also remembered to say thank you and her response was don’t mention. Later that day after making sure I had rested and was feeling very refreshed like a new groom she unleashed her request. It was like a ton of bricks came on me. I immediately knew why she had treated me so extra nicely. I felt trapped and obliged to do what she wanted. Now when I see her go into the kitchen and she is cooking by herself, I immediately ask her to tell me what the request is and save herself all the hassle. Women are smart I must agree.”                                                                                                   

“Once I hear my mum say Isah darling or Isah my child, I know she wants me to do something for her,” said Isah Ahmed Yesufu.  “Her usual pattern is Isah come or just Isa. She never adds any of those her tricky suffixes that we have all discovered. Now she knows we know it is her way of getting us to do things for her so she starts laughing when she addresses us like that. The thing is whether or not she addresses us as such; we’ll still run errands for her.”

Angel Rekwot said, “There is nothing wrong with being sweet and extra nice to get what you want. After all you are using what you to get it. It is just being able to plan yourself, study the mood and knowing when to approach him.”

Confessing that he likes to be treated especially no matter what it costs him afterward, Mr. Yinka Illiasu said, “I feel very good and special when I get this kind of treatment from my wife and what comes after is nothing at all compared to it.”

Marriage counselor and psychologist Dr. Abraham Abe, said, “I don’t at all blame the women for strategizing before they approach their men for what they want. You have to study who you are with and understand his weak points and strike him there. We men do it as well. It is not only the women who like to pamper and go through the extra hassle of satisfying their spouses to get what they want. Men have their tricks as well. But that’s not for me to let out.”