How would you handle a cheating spouse?

Amu and Ibi (not real names) have been married for 5 years and they were blessed with a set of twins with another pregnancy on the way. Ibi provided everything Amu and the kids needed. It never occurred to Amu that her loving and caring husband would ever cheat on her. “After all, she thought, […]

Amu and Ibi (not real names) have been married for 5 years and they were blessed with a set of twins with another pregnancy on the way. Ibi provided everything Amu and the kids needed. It never occurred to Amu that her loving and caring husband would ever cheat on her. “After all, she thought, “he gives the kids and me everything we need.”
Ibi, on the other hand, did that to cover his tracks or so he thought until one fateful evening when his bubbles were burst by Amu’s best friend, Sara, who saw him with another lady at a well-known fast food restaurant and told her friend about it.
That night, Amu’s love and trust for Ibi simply disappeared. Because she was distraught, she thought the best way to handle the situation was to leave him, just as all his apologies fell on deaf ears.
Though infidelity is practised by both genders, the scene above shows what happens in a typical African home. Should a survey be carried out, it would be realized that the cheating spouse often has no reason whatsoever for his/her deception. But irrespective of the reason, unfaithfulness/infidelity is hurtful and can create a permanent rift between two people. Lifextra asked few people how they would handle a cheating spouse.
Asiwaju Bode, an Abuja-based journalist, believes that if the allegation or suspicion is confirmed, the lady needs to be confronted and pleaded with to desist. And if she persists with the act, “then a report would be made to a senior and respected family member on either side for a reprimand.”
“There’ll be no need to make noise because of the integrity of the family and persons involved because after the change of attitude by the accused person, the stigma might haunt him or her for life. So, there is a need for great caution on the part of everyone involved.
Kizito Chigozie Onyegbule, who is single and in his mid-twenties, says “In matters like these, there are no absolutes. Most likely, the relationship/marriage might be over. Likely reason? Destroyed trust. But like I said, there are no absolutes as other factors might be in play that might change my reaction.”
Speaking to Lifextra “Sopuruchukwu Ehidonye says that a cheating spouse is a “goner” for him and that’s if he is not cheating. “That’s my rule. I like to be very reasonable and logical.”
He added, “If I don’t cheat, I will not accept a cheat. The relationship will be over the moment I find out.”
Lifextra then sought to know what would happen if it was the other person that found out first? Ehidonye responded “I expect her to do same. It’s only fair that way.”