India: The memorable gardens (II)

In a few hours we reached another garden. While inside this beautiful rose garden, I remained  silent for some seconds  and I prayed. The garden is spread across   thirty to forty acres, containing nearly 820 varieties of roses in it, and more than 34,000 varieties of other medicinal plants and trees. It is being maintained […]

In a few hours we reached another garden. While inside this beautiful rose garden, I remained  silent for some seconds  and I prayed. The garden is spread across   thirty to forty acres, containing nearly 820 varieties of roses in it, and more than 34,000 varieties of other medicinal plants and trees. It is being maintained by expert gardeners and the greatest incentive is the fact that entry into the park is free.
As I walked inside, I met one of the  professional gardeners who took me round to tell me more about the language of flowers. The man who was 45 years, started by asking if I was  married. When I paused by  one of the trees  to listen to him, he said I said I should always  try to create time to go outside on a nice day and visit a garden, it will  be  a huge advantage.Try to spend 20 minutes outside in  good weather, this not only boosts  a  positive mood, but it broadens thinking and improves the  memory, he said.
He then moved forward, and started  showing me  some flowers. He said again, do you really appreciate your wife? I said yes, he said then today you are lucky to meet me. I will  tell  you  the language of flowers, to encourage your wife, your loved  ones , your parents, your friends and many more.
I could not help, but wonder what he meant and he took me round to start showing some roses which had  so many meanings. He said, always tell your wife you love her, buy her   flowers, tell her she is so beautiful. No marriage is perfect and we all need to make an effort. How many men and women can do that nowadays, to present ordinary fresh flowers to their loved  ones or their wife?
This, of course,  is difficult to understand, how many of us can  decide what to give  our loved  ones , during an anniversary, birthday, wedding and so on. Perhaps, we should start thinking about the language of flowers. When  he took me far inside the garden he started  once more  to explain. When it comes to gift-giving, at least, you need to have some hints. He said  with a smile,  when you are together with your loved ones watching TV or Video films and there is travel show  and she says, it is  wonderful to see peacock inside a beautiful garden? Pay attention, or she says “Oh, look at this flower, it  looks  like the colour of my shoes, those are lovely.” Make a note of it. They drop a hint like this all the time.

Take your loved  one, your wife to some place like this garden, which  has meaning for the two of you. Both men and women  have forgotten the meaning of flowers. I learnt  in the  garden the secret of flowers and their  meanings, including the dictionary of flowers. Each time you want to present the flowers to your loved  ones try to find what  is the secret message you are sending to them: Flowers have many symbolic meanings. White Roses: “Innocent love”, Lilac, Mauve Rose: “Do you still Love me”,  Rose, Yellow & Orange: “Passionate thoughts”, Red Rose: “Romantic Love”, Pink Rose: “Secret Love”, Yellow Rose: “Friendship”, Orchid Rose: “Love and Beauty”, Camellia Red: “You’re adorable,” Hibiscus Rose: “Delicate Beauty”, Hyacinth, purples Rose: “I’m sorry, please forgive me.”

I finally  turned  to him and asked him why he loves  to be a professional gardener.He said right from his child hood, he loved  flowers. They  fill him  with happiness, they way the colours always harmonize with each other. He said, “any time I enter this beautiful place I automatically fall in love with green grass, red roses, white roses, and lots of flowers. If I am sad I enter here, then I  feel so happy.”
How many of us, know the meaning of finding  space at home, in the office, in the dining room, and in our luxury rooms to display flowers, which can bring about a positive emotional feeling to us, and to those who visit our homes. If you don’t know they create a harmonious  atmosphere,  and they present the symbol of sharing and love. That is part of the education I learnt  about flowers in the  garden in India. No wonder any time I called my wife while in India, when I asked about my daughter who bears the name of ‘Uwar Marayu” Aisha, her mother will tell me she went outside the room playing with flowers which I planted inside pots  within the  house. While I was there I understood what she means, that is part of the language of flowers I learnt.

During my last class in the  garden, I learnt that whether you are still dating or have been married for several years, try to surprise your  loved  one, try to pick up some flowers in the market, or pick fresh flowers to present to her. Or buy her a new Qur’an with a wooden design Qur’an stand, handmade dhikir  prayer beads for tasheedah for her. I am hesitant to suggest this one because it will not cost you anything at all, but it will only take you to keep it forever, I guarantee it. Try  it  with your loved  one alone, to present a pot of flowers  only,  and see how she will take care of the  lovely flowers inside. I obtained my lesson on the language of flowers from the Indian  guru  of flowers. On occasion they use garlands  of flowers to welcome guests, in order to show the importance of the person being welcomed. This way of marriage is well-known throughout the world, as both the bride and the groom make an  exchange of flowers. In  fact, this is the most crucial part of the marriage ritual  itself. The two human beings now   come together through the exchange of the flowers and  become one.

Concluded.