My girlfriend is pregnant for my friend!

I am yet to get over the betrayal more because my friend is aware of my extreme love for my girlfriend and my intention to marry her. I still cannot get over her because I love her so much and my heart is breaking to pieces. What do I do?    Mas’ud It seems your […]

I am yet to get over the betrayal more because my friend is aware of my extreme love for my girlfriend and my intention to marry her. I still cannot get over her because I love her so much and my heart is breaking to pieces. What do I do?   

Mas’ud

It seems your friend took the job of taking care of your girlfriend too seriously. He obviously took care of her for himself. A woman who has the mind of quickly hooking up to your friend when you are away is not worth agonizing over. Look out for a better woman and remember to keep your friends away from your future relationships. I wish you good luck as you search for a good woman.

Why is she

lying to me?

Hi, Nana.

I am a guy of twenty-three and in love with a girl of eighteen. We started our relationship since we were still  in secondary school. I noticed recently that she has been seeing a lot of guys and each time I confront her, she will claim they are her relatives.

Because we are from different ethnic groups, it is difficult for me to know all her  relatives and this is very confusing to me.  We have been in this relationship for about two years and I believe she  has never lied to me until now that she has started confusing me with these numerous cousins of hers!

I still love her very much even though I almost quit the relationship until I decided to write you and seek your advice.

Abraham, Kaduna.

My dear, my first advice to you is to trust your instinct and therefore tread with caution. Too many cousins around a female, especially one that is a girlfriend, hardly adds up. In our society, regardless of tribe, relationship between blood relations are conducted in a certain manner, so if it is not conducted properly, then it is not right.  I advise that you should also play it cool so that you can do a little detective work. Sharpen your antennae and sometimes drop in unannounced and see if you can pick up useful information, to allow you take informed decisions. If you are convinced beyond reasonable doubt, then you must quit immediately before you get entangled in a dangerous game.

I’m insecure about my guy

Hi, Nana!

I am in love with a guy who lives in Kaduna. He does not call often but tells me he loves me anytime he manages to call. He also tries to let me know that he misses me. This attitude of his is sending me confusing signals. I  have a feeling he is involved with another girl and that explains his long  silence. Should I still stick to him?

Mimi, Kogi

You should be patient, Mimi. There are several things other than an affair with another girl that can stop him from calling you regularly, like the nature of his job and even other social commitments. By the way, how often is good enough, once a day, a week or a month? It is possible that he thinks the number of time he is calling  you now is often enough. Let him know that you desire him to call you more often as that will reassure you of his love. Good luck!