NASFAT worried about prevalence of failed marriages

The Nasrul-lahi Fathi Society (NASFAT) has organised a two-day counselling and capacity building for counsellors and missioners of the society to impact their knowledge on couples and would-be couples. The organisation, which lamented rising cases of failed marriages, said it was its effort to stem the tide of marital violence and other vices associated with […]

The Nasrul-lahi Fathi Society (NASFAT) has organised a two-day counselling and capacity building for counsellors and missioners of the society to impact their knowledge on couples and would-be couples.

The organisation, which lamented rising cases of failed marriages, said it was its effort to stem the tide of marital violence and other vices associated with the family system.

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NASFAT’s Counsellor, Dr Rahmat Adetutu-Adisa, said the workshop would be extended to all parts of Nigeria and other branches in the diaspora.

She blamed failed marriages on the failure of couples to study themselves before consummating their marriage.

She said, “The reason is that couples don’t really know themselves before getting into marriage. For some, it would be out of the euphoria of ‘I love you, I love you” and they think that is all it is, forgetting that there are some other things that need to be considered. For instance, finance, what does your spouse like, what he doesn’t like, what can you accommodate?”

One of the facilitators, Dr Sulaiman Ogunmuyiwa, who spoke on “Effective Marriage Counselling: Strategies and Challenges”, said while conflicts in marriages could not be eliminated, counselling would help to reduce them to the barest minimum.

 He said, “There is nothing like ideal marriage. Every marriage is unique, it is all about acceptance. Any marriage you see working is because they are working on it. Don’t be deceived by what you see. The fact is that no marriage is perfect. It is important we understand the science of people coming together.”

Also speaking, Imam Ibrahim Olalekan Sodehinde, a zonal missioner of NASFAT, Ondo State, said the increase in the rate of divorce was because most people were getting into marriage without knowing how to relate with their spouses and work on emotions.