Pray, has the culture of toshi died?

The usual toshi are  clothes for Sallah, cosmetics, items that we call provisions that include, milk, sugar, corn flask, sardine among other things.In those days that people got engaged when the girls were in secondary schools for years before they finish and the marriage takes place, the husband bought provisions when the girls were resuming […]

The usual toshi are  clothes for Sallah, cosmetics, items that we call provisions that include, milk, sugar, corn flask, sardine among other things.
In those days that people got engaged when the girls were in secondary schools for years before they finish and the marriage takes place, the husband bought provisions when the girls were resuming to school after holidays or when they visited them in schools.
In addition, during Ramadan, the men bought kayan azumi, provisions meant for Ramadan fast.
They also bought clothes, shoes and in some cases included money for sewing for the girls during Sallah. Still, some even bought ram for the girls during the Eid-el-Mubarak, babbar Sallah.
However, it is interesting to know that apart from the provisions and possibly the ram, the clothes and cosmetics were kept until after the marriage, so it is not about greed by the parents, especially mothers to get material gains. It is a beautiful culture, it is not in any way demanding, because if a man wants to marry a girl, surely he should be able to buy a set of clothes for her during festivities such as Sallah. Besides, the men can buy what they can afford, they are not compelled to buy what is beyond them.
Anyway, in  some cases, it was the parents that bought the items.
Another point is that in many instances, the Sallah clothes were not given directly by the men, but an aunt would be sent to deliver them in a more formal way. This intensifies the seriousness of the matter.
However from many occasions that I have observed, this gallantry of the men of yesterday is lacking in our young men of today.
My first inkling of this was when one young man was getting married. I asked him if he had bought Sallah clothes for the girl, he told me that he gave her money for the clothes.
I was not happy with this trend and I told him that he should have bought the clothes for her instead of giving her the money.
My logic is that with the clothes she has to show it to her parents, but some girls may not necessarily show the money. So the parents may not know about it.
I was surprised to learn that some girls that were betrothed to be married in the next few months were not given anything during Ramadan fast, much less Sallah clothes. And before somebody cries poverty, these are men with jobs and cars, so I wonder how they can be so mean.
“Why are young men of nowadays stingy?” I lamented.
“Perhaps it is because they send them (girlfriends) recharge cards,” my friend said.
She added that in fact, that is the only thing young men are good at, talking with the girls all the time over the phone, but with no occasional gift or toshi, if you like.
Parents , particularly mothers are to blame for this laxity, because that was not how they were courted and they knew the culture, so why shouldn’t they uphold it in the case of their sons?
The toshi adds to the thrill of the marriage process, it is a thing of pride.
This piece is by no means saying that men should be spending on women or that girls should only marry wealthy men, or girls should demand money, clothes and so on from boyfriends.
It is about upholding a beautiful culture in marriage, because as soon as parents come into it, it has become a serious matter, therefore the toshi signifies such seriousness.