Raising children the right way

The influence of friends,  peer group, social media among others, are challenges to the upbringing of children. Raising children to be good has nothing to do with being poor or wealthy, but some use it as reason for not doing their best in raising their children.You hear of ‘rich spoilt’ children and children from parents that […]

The influence of friends,  peer group, social media among others, are challenges to the upbringing of children.
 Raising children to be good has nothing to do with being poor or wealthy, but some use it as reason for not doing their best in raising their children.
You hear of ‘rich spoilt’ children and children from parents that are too poor to look after them, much less give them good home training.
But why should being rich make you spoil your children, instead of using your condition to make your children humble?
Some wealthy parents don’t allow their children to have everything they like just because they can afford it.
However some are allowed to run wild and may end up having problems later in life. They become adults without any training and become a liability to the parents and their friends.
This is because no matter the amount of ‘spoiling’ they got, there would come a time when they need to  stand on their own.  And they cannot do it.
Some have become perpetual stragglers, spending all day at home or moving from one place to another, without any aim of doing anything productive or good for themselves.
One father was at a loss because his  two  sons  have become bad adults from being spoilt children.
“I gave them everything they ever wanted that money could buy!” he ranted.
But how about home training?  They were little terrors when they were young   and even a  reprimand in school would make him  go and complain or threaten their teachers. This included Islamiyya  school, if they were beaten by the teachers.
In another case, there was one young man who was humble and well-behaved that people admired him and his wealthy parents.
“Imagine, how could a young man from such a family be so good?” one woman observed when she saw him greeting his aunties respectfully.
  There are many such wealthy families where children are told not to abuse or look down on house helps, to know that just because the house helps work for them, it doesn’t mean they are to be taken for granted.
Some children can in fact get spanking for abusing house helps, especially the elderly ones.
However, just because somebody is poor does not mean that he should neglect his responsibility of taking care of his children and for giving them good home training.
You hear many excuses, such as, “The parents are too poor looking for what to eat to look after their children. That is why the children roam about and become miscreants.”
Some children from very poor families are very well-behaved, because the parents train them and don’t see the wisdom of allowing them to become nuisance just because they are poor.
 As parents, people should always make sure they do their best in giving home training to their children, so that they become useful members of the society.
“You lack home training,” is an insult that people don’t like. It is an indictment on their parents that they have not done well making them well-behaved, so it is an important aspect of our every day life.