Re: Of husbands demanding contribution from their wives

A man deserves praise for providing and catering for the family. Likewise the woman should be hailed for helping the family gets finished food, protection and comfort at home. The pride of a man lies in providing for the family 100 per cent. A woman cannot be despised for not rendering financial assistance to the […]

A man deserves praise for providing and catering for the family. Likewise the woman should be hailed for helping the family gets finished food, protection and comfort at home. The pride of a man lies in providing for the family 100 per cent. A woman cannot be despised for not rendering financial assistance to the running of the household.
 Can the man pay his wife for breast feeding the children? Or  can he  do that himself? Can he be at home 24 hours indoor even during the weekend to cook, wash plates and manage the children? A man needs to make his woman stress free for he needs her beauty for his own satisfaction.
Bagudu, Minna
 
Despite the current economic hardship in our country, we should not forget the teachings of our  religion (Islam) which puts all the responsibilities from food, shelter, clothing, education, etc on men. What is more worrisome is that men now want to allow their wives to work no matter what will be the consequence i.e neglect of children, infidelity among others.
 For our society to move forward we should start showing good leadership qualities at home, may be when we assume the leadership of the society we can right the wrongs of our past and present leaders.
Mustapha UD

Thank you for shedding light on this very important and very sensitive issue. Many men have taken for granted the financial support given to them by turning their so-called wives into their financial partners. What a massive shame!!
My prayer is that our men, sons, brothers and husbands heed to their God-given responsiblities.
More over,  woman was created from  man and not vice versa!
I have nothing more to add or subtract; you’ve said it all.
Jennifer Mbama

If you observe in our tradition that is Hausa-Fulani, in those days, women were not allowed to do work after marriage. Though some  did, but it was  very few among the Hausa community, because it is  assumed that once a woman gets married her husband will provide her with all she needs, based on his financial capability.
I can  recall in 1991, when one of my brothers wanted  to marry a woman who was a teacher, our parent told  her that “no more teaching after marriage,” and she agreed.
However, all my brothers’ wives are now working, some with state government  and some with local government.
But to me  if a woman is allowed to work, then it will be good for her  to assist  her husband especially if he is a  low income earner. Though women from other tribes other than Hausa-Fulani do contribute a lot when they are earning salary.
Sanusi  Tanko

This is a good observation that has become the norm in our society, where some husbands make their wives to take financial responsibilities of the family even where the husbands have the means to do everything themselves.
Now a lot of married women pay even school fees, apart from clothes and food, so before the month ends, whatever they collected as salary might have finished.
When women work or do business, they help their parents and relatives, therefore lessening the burden on their husbands by asking them to give them money for their (wives’) parents or relations.
But this does not mean that the husbands should fold their arms while women take the leadership of the house, at least financially.
Marriage should not be a financial partnership.
Ummie Khalil