Rejection is never a sign of defeat

The deepest need we all desire in life is love and because love is our deepest need, our greatest fear is the thought of being rejected by people we trust, especially our loved ones and people around us. Rejection is real. It is painful. It makes you feel like you are not important and attacks […]

The deepest need we all desire in life is love and because love is our deepest need, our greatest fear is the thought of being rejected by people we trust, especially our loved ones and people around us. Rejection is real. It is painful. It makes you feel like you are not important and attacks your sense of identity, self-worth and purpose in life. Even though rejection in one form or another is a part of everyday life, the experience can be devastating and can have serious psychological consequences such as loneliness, reduced self-esteem, aggression and depression.
Rejection happens everywhere around us. It could be in at the home front, at work or even among our peers. But then the bottom line is that rejection can never be the end of your life. Most women are always at the receiving end in most cases of rejection especially in married life. We have heard and read of several cases of women being rejected by their spouses, friends and even family. When rejected, no one can escape from the pains that accompany it. Rejection is an inevitable part of our life and it can cause utmost damage to our personality and our life. “Rejection is one of those universal experiences we can all relate to whether it is family or social, it could be business or a romantic rejection, that feeling of exclusion or lack of acceptance is something we all dread” according to physo.org.com .

Handling rejection can be humiliating, frustrating and hard to digest for most of us especially women who are considered the weaker sex. Rejection can be difficult for most of us to handle as in some cases we believe all sense of judgement and logic is lost. However, instead of drowning in self pity and isolation we can come out with some pearls of wisdom and experience.

Rejection comes in various forms and can occur even in the smallest ways in our lives.  We always tend to blame ourselves for being rejected even if it is the other person’s problem and not ours.  Upholding our dignity and self respect depends on how we deal and handle rejection. When we are rejected, we have a propensity to feel unloved, to be worthless, insignificant and insecure.  We also lose our self confidence.  Rejection could lead us into doing something disgraceful and terrible like seeking some kind of vengeance. But it all boils down to one thing that no matter how tough we might be or pretend to be, rejection definitely hurts and reaches down to our innermost selves and souls.
Every one of us must have one point in our lives experienced rejection. It may be by a person with whom you want to have a relationship or it could be when you were denied a job you really want. The truth is that the only people who never experience rejection are those who never have any interaction with other people. Unfortunately we cannot prevent it but we must realize that it can be destructive only if we internalize it and permit it to go beyond the boundary we set for it. Learning the correct way about how to deal and overcome rejection helps us a great deal in overcoming the notion of being worthless and strengthen our ability to build strong relationship with people around us.
If you feel good about yourself you do not need to bother about what other people feel or think of you.  The more confident you are, the better you will be in handling different forms of rejection. Like it or not, rejection is a fact of life.

When we feel rejected, we often respond in unhealthy ways, some of us internalizeour rejection and become passive and aggressive as we silently withdraw our affection from those around us. Our success in life depends largely on how we handle rejection. Most people who are successful today have passed through series of criticism and rejection before they got to where they are. It is important that you do not lose hope and let rejection lower your self confidence.  It is important to understand that nobody can cause us the pain of rejection without our permission; rejection can only affect you if you give in too much to it and allow it to bother you. No matter the amount of rejection you get from people around you, you can still live a fulfilled and positive life.

Handling rejection is all about exercising self control on our emotions and mind. Rejection could be a learning process for us.
 There are times in our lives when you need to give yourself time and space to heal from rejection. Going into grief indefinitely will only be a waste of time on your own part. What you need to do is to focus on your future and forget the past or your present situation; the past could affect your future. Learn the lessons rejection offers you and move on to the next level. Rejection happens but that does not mean that it will continue to happen or it is the end of your life. We can always pick up after rejection and live life as it is. Life attracts life so if you are not giving the opportunity to life you can never live your desired life. Rejection is never a sign of defeat; it’s a step to move further in life. So if you are rejected, brace for the battle because life is not yet over.