Tolu Odukoya: I’m Not an Advocate of Divorce but Marriage Is Not for Everybody

Pastor Tolu Odukoya has said she is not an advocate of divorce, despite being divorced herself. Speaking on Archives of Becoming, Odukoya said marriage is not meant for everyone. “I’m not an advocate for divorce even though I’m divorced. Marriage is something that should be worked on and, where possible, restored. Physical abuse is the […]

Pastor Tolu Odukoya has said she is not an advocate of divorce, despite being divorced herself.

Speaking on Archives of Becoming, Odukoya said marriage is not meant for everyone.

“I’m not an advocate for divorce even though I’m divorced. Marriage is something that should be worked on and, where possible, restored. Physical abuse is the only exception, and that should never be tolerated.”

She further addressed the role of the church in shaping marital expectations.

“The church has contributed to confusion around control and submission in marriage. Scriptures are often read without explaining the responsibilities of both spouses,” she said.

Odukoya encouraged couples to reflect God’s love in their relationships, comparing marriage to divine forgiveness.

“Marriage is meant to demonstrate God’s love to the world. It is hard work and requires sacrifice and selflessness,” she said.

On remarriage, she added, “I cannot definitively call it God’s idea, but I believe God does not intend for people to be alone. Marriage is not for everyone. It demands selflessness and commitment.”

She also warned against entering marriage for selfish reasons.

“Many people marry focusing on what they can gain rather than what they are willing to give. That approach makes a healthy union difficult to sustain,” Odukoya said.