VOXPOP: Can you marry your best friend”s ex? (VIDEO)
When a person is married to or dating his or her friend’s ex, it is not uncommon to hear people talk about it with disdain despite the fact that everyone has the right to date or marry whoever they want to. As such, there seems to be an unwritten code that exes of friends are […]
When a person is married to or dating his or her friend’s ex, it is not uncommon to hear people talk about it with disdain despite the fact that everyone has the right to date or marry whoever they want to. As such, there seems to be an unwritten code that exes of friends are a no-go-area.
The logical line of reasoning should be: what does it matter since they are no longer together? Yet, it matters to most people, however illogical.
So why does it matter to people? Could it be that they feel ownership of an ex, especially if it was a serious relationship? Lifextra spoke to a cross section of people on their views about dating or marrying their best friends’ exes.
A civil servant, Bashir Musa Liman, told Lifextra that it would be tantamount to betrayal of trust if his friend marries his ex.
He said “I won’t marry or date my best friend’s ex because I wouldn’t want to betray the trust and relationship between us. I take my best friend as a brother and I know by dating or marrying his ex, I would hurt him.
“And if he dates or marries my ex, I wouldn’t be happy with him. So, I won’t do something that I am sure if somebody does to me it would hurt me.”