When friends insist on hooking you up

I never really liked the idea of being on a blind date but I had an open mind to it which didn’t work out fine. Having friends hook you up can have its advantages and disadvantages, some couples have gotten their life partners from such arrangements while for others it turned out to be unpleasant.Aliyu […]

I never really liked the idea of being on a blind date but I had an open mind to it which didn’t work out fine.
Having friends hook you up can have its advantages and disadvantages, some couples have gotten their life partners from such arrangements while for others it turned out to be unpleasant.
Aliyu Yakubu, a banker, thinks there is nothing wrong with it especially when both parties see and like each other.
Zainab Usman, a teacher, says she doesn’t like the idea at all. She said in her own case it was her aunty and not friends who set her up for a blind date and she and other relatives went to the extent of fixing her wedding date with the said person even when she said she didn’t like him.
“They feel it is their duty to pair single people they see around them. They don’t think about their personalities or interests which is why forced introductions or dates usually fail. Though it may sound defensive but it is almost insulting for these interventions because they make one feel you  can’t be trusted  to find someone good enough by yourself,” she said.
She said  most times when they hook you up, they expect you to love that person immediately after the introduction and fast track other activities for the marriage.
Amina Usman, a student,  said it is not a bad idea for friends and family to hook one up, but added that both parties should put in mind that it could go both ways. It’s either they like each other or they don’t. She further says friends shouldn’t be too emotional about it when it doesn’t work out fine.
Although it is good for friends to desire to see their friends settled and happy, they should always remember that their choice  can’t be the same with the ones they are trying to help, as they are two different persons with different desires. Sometimes it begins to feel forced rather than natural.
People should not also completely over rule hooking up by friends as they could meet partners of their dreams from such arrangements too.