Which do you prefer: Blunt truth or white lie?

“I have lost it since I came to realise the truth. It has really been a big blow to me as I do not seem to be able to focus on anything again since I came to know the disgusting truth. I fear I might do something nasty to myself or the person that hid […]

“I have lost it since I came to realise the truth. It has really been a big blow to me as I do not seem to be able to focus on anything again since I came to know the disgusting truth. I fear I might do something nasty to myself or the person that hid the truth from me. Please, tell me, why is the truth so bitter and hard to handle? I will be grateful if you can tell me how best to handle the truth when we are confronted by it, because right now, I am in a state of distress,” these were the words of Maryam Muhammed who wrote in to express her dilemma.

You want the truth? You can’t handle the truth is a famous line from the movie, “A few good men” and this applies to almost everyone in life. There are many of us that find ourselves in this kind of situation and find it very difficult to handle the truth when we come face-to-face with it. Likewise, many have asked questions about handling the truth and even asked if it causes destruction of relationships and dreams.

Of course, when it becomes difficult to handle the truth, it definitely destroys relationships and most especially you, because if you do not handle it properly, it ends up shattering everything about you which affects almost everything in your life.

So many people have said that the truth heals, and they have equally asked that if the truth heals, why is it so difficult to handle the truth? Why are we so afraid of the very thing that would set us free and make us feel better and at peace? The question is worth asking. And the alternative is worth imagining too.

Sometimes, the truth grabs us right where it hurts and strangles life out of us. Maybe the truth was slapped unexpectedly on us and it made us to realise that everything that we were doing was false and not working, but something has got to give, but we never give truth the chance to change things in our lives as we just get trapped in a whirlwind of emotions which makes it difficult for us to move on and forge ahead in life.

We all have times when we can’t ‘handle the truth.’ Hearing the truth about ourselves truly takes courage and a little faith. Truth, like suffering, has the distinctive capacity to improve the quality of our life if we are willing to accept it.  Unwillingness to hear and accept the truth is one of the reasons that some people are a failure at relationships and marriages.  Until we learn to accept and even embrace the truth as the reality in our lives, it will be difficult to make a meaningful legacy in life.

The world is full of different opportunities, so is the truth. Sometimes when faced with realities in our lives, we are forced to change our lives in many different ways. If you are determined to look forward, look for these opportunities. There are millions of scenarios in life and no one can tell you what to do. Your life is unique and you are the only one capable of applying the concepts to your situation. It will take some time to sort yourself out when you discover the truth, but do not lose heart because the world is endless.  

The truth is that there are always truths to be said and discovered and when you find it, you’ll discover a new and better way towards living life meaningfully. It may be dark and lonely at first, but with strong will and faith, you will be able to handle whatever truth is made known to you, because truth is dynamically vital to maintaining a rewarding relationship. We need to be able to handle it well, and for us to be able to handle the truth, we have to have an open mind and heart. Remember the truth sets us free, so as soon as we accept it, the better for us.

The truth can be a very painful thing. We will find ourselves repeating words such as, “I wish I didn’t know” many times in our lives. Unfortunately, dealing with the truth is a part of growing up and learning. It is essential to becoming the people that we are.

Yes, we really do want to know the truth. The truth is what changes the world. It might be sick and disgusting at times. It might even be enough to make your toes curl and your hair stand on end, but it’s a necessary evil at times.