Would you save on wedding to splurge on honeymoon or vice versa?

Wikipedia defines honeymoon as “The traditional vacation taken by newlyweds to celebrate their marriage in intimacy and seclusion.” In other words, this is the period when the couple takes a break to share some private and intimate moments that will help to establish love in their relationship. However, weddings are usually joyous occasions for newlyweds, […]

Wikipedia defines honeymoon as “The traditional vacation taken by newlyweds to celebrate their marriage in intimacy and seclusion.” In other words, this is the period when the couple takes a break to share some private and intimate moments that will help to establish love in their relationship.

However, weddings are usually joyous occasions for newlyweds, their families and friends. Most families, especially parents, look forward to this day even when they are not the ones directly involved in the nuptials, and they go ahead to prepare adequately for it.

But then, the couple might have their preference – either a quiet wedding and a luxurious honeymoon or a lavish wedding and no honeymoon.  

Bandana Shah, an Indian journalist, said “A quality wedding with a small guest list and a good, short honeymoon would do for me because I need to have an “alone time” with my spouse and also talk about more things that would help us spice our marriage over the years.”

Firdous Abu Bakr, a married woman, said she prefers a small wedding and big honeymoon. Her reason? “I like keeping my events low profile. In other words, I do not like crowd.”

Taofik Rotimi, a youth corps member, also prefers small weddings and honeymoon.

“I have always been a private person so a small wedding with people that matters to us will do but then we’ll have a honeymoon just to spend quality time together before jobs and family takes over our lives.”

Concurring with Abu Bakr and Rotimi, Aliyu Ismaïl, a student union leader, subscribes to small wedding and quality honeymoon. “The wedding is for the sake of those who are definitely part of it (family) and the honeymoon for deeper connection with my spouse.”

Awodiya Funke, a poet and author of ‘the farmer’s daughter’, says a quiet wedding and then honeymoon. Wedding is just a day’s ceremony but marriage is for a lifetime, so honeymoon is more connected to the life long journey.”

Kukogho Iruesiri Samson, an author, told LifeXtra “I would prefer a small wedding and honeymoon.”

When asked why, he said, “I see lavish weddings as a waste of time and money (unless we’re talking about a super wealthy family). Again, they honeymoon gives the couple a platform to further bond away from familiar environments. It may be the only chance the couple will get to be actually alone and free.”

Clement A. Oloyede, an unmarried journalist, says he would want a small but quality wedding with a nice (but not necessarily long) honeymoon. “Life waits for no one.”

Also speaking to LifeXtra, David Oluwasegun said, “I would want a small wedding since the purpose of wedding is majorly for unification.”

 “Honeymoon deals more with building the marriage because wedding is just the ceremony heralding the marriage. The main marriage starts during the honeymoon. And so the size of the wedding doesn’t count.”